Education & Coaching · Not Therapy
Healing Together Coaching Program
An online education and coaching program for couples, created by Dr. Carol Ann Conrad, EdD and Alissa Wakefield. Available wherever you live.
Watch the free 5-minute videoOpens healingtogetherirt.com · education & coaching, not therapy
Or start with the free 30-minute masterclass (no sign-up required).
First, what it isn't
- It isn't therapy. Healing Together is not psychotherapy and is not a substitute for therapy.
- No diagnosis or treatment. There's no clinical assessment or treatment plan. Dr. Carol and Alissa work with you as coaches and educators, not as your treating clinicians.
- Not for a crisis. It isn't the right starting point if your relationship is in crisis, or if there is domestic violence, active addiction, or an active affair.
If any of that applies, please reach out for therapy (Dr. Carol sees residents of Washington, Idaho, Illinois, Iowa) or another licensed professional in your area. If you're in crisis, call or text 988 or call 911.
What it is
Healing Together teaches the Integrative Relational Transformation (IRT) method, built on the idea that lasting change in a relationship happens on two levels at once.
Between
The relationship between you
Guided by Dr. Carol: attachment patterns, the communication cycle, and the pursue-withdraw dance that keeps the same fight coming back.
Within
The healing within each of you
Guided by Alissa: the older emotional wounds and protective patterns underneath the cycle, which often drive reactions faster than conscious thought.
Why Dr. Carol built it
In years of couples work, Dr. Carol kept seeing the same thing: couples could calm their conflicts and understand their patterns, but still stayed stuck. Often the deeper issue was old emotional wounds in one or both partners' histories, and there was rarely room to work on those alongside the relationship itself.
When she met Alissa, the two halves fit together. Healing Together holds the relationship work and the individual work in one place, so they can build on each other instead of running on separate tracks.
And because it's online, Healing Together is open to couples outside the four states where Dr. Carol is licensed to provide therapy (Washington, Idaho, Illinois, Iowa).
What participants tend to gain
Every relationship is different, and nobody can promise results. Still, people who fully engage often describe shifts like these:
Seeing the pattern for what it is
The same fight about money, chores or tone is usually the tip of the iceberg. Many couples find it a relief to finally see the cycle underneath and name it together.
Understanding what drives your reactions
You can know exactly the right thing to say and still react the old way in the moment. The Within work looks at the older, protective patterns that fire faster than thought.
A way forward, even if you start alone
When one partner changes their steps, the old dance has a harder time continuing. Your partner can join when they're ready.
Joining from home, at your comfort level
Live, guided sessions you can join from home, with camera and sharing optional. Plenty of people simply watch at first.
How to get started
- 1
Watch the free 5-minute video
It's the welcome video at the top of the Healing Together homepage. Watch it whenever you like. Nobody's going to rush you into signing up.
- 2
Want more? Try the free masterclass
Thirty minutes, free, no sign-up. A fuller walk-through of the Between and Within approach.
- 3
When you're ready: the Connection Breakthrough Experience
A live, guided group session led by Alissa or one of the program's trained facilitators. Join from home, keep your camera off if you like, and bring your questions.
Want to see if it's a good fit?
Watch the free 5-minute videoHealing Together · education & coaching, not therapy
Or watch the free 30-minute masterclassCommon Questions
Is the Healing Together Coaching Program therapy?
No. Healing Together is an education and coaching program. It is not psychotherapy, it doesn't involve a diagnosis or treatment plan, and it isn't a substitute for therapy. Inside the program, Dr. Carol and Alissa work with you as coaches and educators, not as your treating clinicians.
Do I need to live in a certain state?
No. Healing Together is online and open to people wherever they live. (Therapy with Dr. Carol is separate and available only to residents of Washington, Idaho, Illinois, Iowa.)
What if my partner isn't ready?
You can start on your own, and your partner can join when they're ready. A relationship is a system, so change on one side is often felt on the other.
Looking for licensed therapy instead? Dr. Carol provides therapy by telehealth only to residents of Washington, Idaho, Illinois, Iowa.
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