Trauma Therapy Dealing with the Past to Create a Brighter Future

Significant negative events in our lives can literally shock the system, causing a great deal of stress and anxiety for those who have experienced it. People with trauma suffer from symptoms that may include depression, intrusive thoughts, emotional outbursts, and sleep disturbances which all negatively impact quality of life. But there is hope in the form of experiential therapy.

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Betrayal Trauma

Infidelity and other violations of trust can leave a lasting impact on a relationship. We help couples reconnect and re-discover intimacy.

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Sexual Trauma

We help survivors of sexual abuse, harassment, and rape learn to feel safe again and regain the ability to form loving, caring relationships.

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Violence, war, accidents, and even medical treatments can leave deep emotional wounds. EFT trauma treatment can help heal those wounds. 

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Emotionally Focused Therapy for Trauma Survivors

All trauma always involves relationships, regardless of the source of the trauma. Trauma disrupts the sense of security and safety a person feels within themselves and with others in the world. When a person undergoes substantial trauma, the brain's ability to process emotion can be negatively affected. Emotionally focused trauma therapy is particularly suited to help individuals and couples heal the relational wounds caused by traumatic experiences. EFT aims to help you process the traumatic event(s) and re-establish healthy connections and security that alleviate the fear, anxiety, and relational issues that result from traumatic experiences.


"HMT gave us a second chance, created the space each of us needed to work with each other again, and gave me the breathing room that I needed personally."

healed Client

"The HMT workshop reinforced the book and provided excellent video examples (behavioral examples) and the opportunity to discuss general partner dynamics as a group. Carol and the support therapists did a great job!"

A Happy Client

"Going through the HMT "process" has helped my husband and I communicate more effectively. Knowing what the demon dialogue does to us & how to stop our dance has been pivotal to us really letting each other in"

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“Dr. Conrad is very professional and compassionate. We worked together as a team and she helped me heal in ways I never thought possible. As a result of therapy I am able to enjoy life to its fullest. I highly recommend Dr. Conrad.” 

A Satisfied Client

"We simply can’t recommend working with Dr. Carol enough! Our marriage had been struggling for a long time, and we went into counseling skeptical (but hopeful) that things could be different. After the Hold Me Tight workshop and hard work together with Carol, we are happier in our relationship, closer than we thought possible, and even better parents. We are eternally grateful to Dr. Carol and EFT; we know the tools we learned have saved our marriage!"

Hold Me Tight Couple

"Dr. Conrad was engaging and encouraging to us. she helped make the workshop a little easier to participate in. The topics at time were emotionally charging, but she was supportive."

refreshed client

"I think EVERY couple should do this!"

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"If you are open, I guarantee you will learn how to create love and trust in this workshop!"

A happy client

The HMT was a great place to open up and really explore our relationship & feelings in a safe & encouraging environment."

Hold Me Tight Couple

"Well worth the time!"

A Satisfied Client

"HMT helped us find the core of our relationship difficulty."

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Frequently Asked Questions About Trauma Therapy

Finding a therapist is a big step toward unpacking your trauma and starting to heal. Check out these FAQs, and get in touch with us if you have additional questions. 

How can EFT address betrayal in my marriage?

EFT is designed to help resolve betrayal in your marriage after an affair, substance or pornography abuse, or any other betrayal of trust. Once a couple is more present, safety has been re-established, and reactivity has been diminished, we have a very specific model we use that is researched based to be effective in resolving betrayal using EFT. It is called the Attachment Injury Repair Model (AIRM). An attachment injury is when something happens in a relationship where safety and trust are broken, an expectation for help and comfort is not met at a vulnerable time by the injured party, and the offending partner broke trust or turned away. The injured party in essence decides that they will never again open their heart to this person and turns away or becomes highly reactive in the relationship. Using the AIRM of EFT, research shows that not only is it effective, it holds the gains after therapy has ended.

Do I have to relive all the trauma again to heal it?

While it is true, you will have to recall as much of the memories of what happened so you can draw the implicit unresolved trauma out of your short-term memory, you won’t have to do it alone. The single most devastating effects of trauma is that it leaves the survivor feeling alone and isolated inside with their distress, even if others experience the trauma at the same time. Being or feeling alone is inherently traumatizing to all of us as social human beings.  We can only grow and thrive in connection with others, we are not designed mentally, emotionally, or physically to live in isolation.

We are all trained at CFIT to create an alliance and safety so we can walk alongside you in the process of healing.  Having a safe “other” to see and witness your pain brings comfort and allows you to understand it in context, find the truth of the situation and  have power over it so you no longer are re-traumatized by it. When you have the power over it, the trauma memories can move into “long-term memory” as a past event, not a recurring ever-present event that invades and intrudes on your life. PTSD in this process is completely resolvable even if you have had long term, chronic and complex PTSD.

Does EFT work with developmental trauma?

Developmental trauma is generally referred to as trauma that occurs especially at infancy and often during the pre-verbal ages before 3 or 4 years old.

Again, EFT is uniquely designed to heal this form of trauma through the relationship with your therapist, understanding and focusing on unmet attachment needs, and imaginal focusing on the child self to receive those attachment needs. Depending on the situation, this can be done either in couple’s therapy with your partner as your attachment person, an attachment person from your past, or if that’s not possible or available, you and your therapist can form an attachment alliance.  A safe an available attachment relationship will help you understand what developmentally interrupted, find the lost parts of yourself to be healed,, and create emotionally corrective experiences that can heal the trauma and help you form lasting relationships in your natural life.

Can I heal from a traumatic relationship that I’m no longer in?

Yes, absolutely you can heal from relationships that you are no longer in, but still struggle with the wounds of these old and hurtful relationships including past abusive romantic partners, significant relationships where you have been betrayed, or parental relationships that cannot be healed in the present with them directly. In individual EFT we focus on the hurts of previous relationships and unresolved grief through imaginal experiences with that hurt relationship. This will help give you relief from the pain you’ve been carrying through identifying, addressing, and expressing, the unresolved or unclaimed emotions associated with the relationship trauma.

Ready to Begin Your Healing Journey?

Over the past 30 years, many research studies continue to prove the effectiveness of EFT and its ability to transform the lives of couples and individuals alike. Whether you're new to therapy or you've tried every method in the book, everyone can benefit from this transformative practice.